Mithrysha's World: July 2009

Friday, July 31, 2009

How to choose a life partner

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach tofinding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake peoplemake when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based onlove. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's aprofound truth here.Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result ofa good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the lovewill come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationshipon love alone'; You need a lot more!!!Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious aboutfinding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do youplan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need acommon life purpose.Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or(2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. Thebasis of having good communication is trust â€' i.e.. trust that I won'tget 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom youfeel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest withyourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with theperson you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can youtest? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on aregular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher ofmine defines a good person as 'someone who is always striving to be goodand do the right ';. So ask about your significant other: What do theydo with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually amaterialistic person is not someone whose top priority is characterrefinement.There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People whoare dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated toseeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable willput personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to knowthat before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is theability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another personpleasure.Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are theywrapped up in themselves and selfâ€' absorbed?To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat peoplewhom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxidrivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do theyhave gratitude and appreciation?If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given themeverything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure thatsomeone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly aswell.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intentionof trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague ofmine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriagefor the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they arenow, then you are not ready to marry them.In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less withyour heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating;to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring onyour finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn'tdo your homework.Another perspective...There are some people in your life that need to be loved from adistance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or atleast minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible,not 'going anywhere relationships.

Observe the relationships around you.
Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are goingdownhill?When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?Which ones dont appreciate you?Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving andcaring words or annotations.The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love andtruth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who getsto sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of yourlife.
An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open,and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make acommitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,ignorance, pressure from others or a low selfâ€'esteem make you blind towarning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you canchange someone or that what you see as faults aren't really thatimportant.Do you bring out the best in each other?Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,compare and control?What do you bring to the relationship?Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't makesomeone love you or make someone stay.If you develop selfâ€'esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; youwon't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happinessor responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT 10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode asresentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain willreplace.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

25 Reasons Why You Should Start Drinking Green Tea Now*

Green tea has increasingly become a very popular drink worldwide because of its immensely powerful health benefits.

It is extraordinarily amazing what green tea can do for your health.

And if you're not drinking 3 to 4 cups of green tea today, you're definitely NOT doing your health a big favor.

Here Are The 25 Reasons Why You Should Start Drinking Green Tea Right Now:

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*1. Green Tea and Cancer*

Green tea helps reduce the risk of cancer.

The antioxidant in green tea is 100 times more effective than vitamin C and 25 times better than vitamin E.

This helps your body at protecting cells from damage believed to be linked to cancer.

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*2. Green Tea and Heart Disease*

Green tea helps prevent heart disease and stroke by lowering the level of cholesterol.

Even after the heart attack, it prevents cell deaths and speeds up the recovery of heart cells.

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*3. Green Tea and Anti-Aging*
Green tea contains antioxidant known as polyphenols which fight against free radicals.

What this means it helps you fight against aging and promotes longevity.

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*4. Green Tea and Weight Loss*

Green tea helps with your body weight loss. Green tea burns fat and boosts your metabolism rate naturally.

It can help you burn up to 70 calories in just one day.

That translates to 7 pounds in one year.
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*5. Green Tea and Skin *

Antioxidant in green tea protects the skin from the harmful effects of free radicals, which cause wrinkling and skin aging.

Green tea also helps fight against skin cancer.

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*6. Green Tea and Arthritis*

Green tea can help prevent and reduce the risk of rheumatoid arthritis.

Green tea has benefit for your health as it protects the cartilage by

blocking the enzyme that destroys cartilage.

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*7. Green Tea and Bones*

The very key to this is high fluoride content found in green tea.

It helps keep your bones strong.

If you drink green tea every day, this will help you preserve your bone density.

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*8. Green Tea and Cholesterol*

Green tea can help lower cholesterol level.

It also improves the ratio of good cholesterol to bad cholesterol, by reducing bad cholesterol level.

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*9. Green Tea and Obesity*

Green tea prevents obesity by stopping the movement of glucose in fat cells.

If you are on a healthy diet, exercise regularly and drink green tea, it is unlikely you'll be obese.

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*10. Green Tea and Diabetes*

Green tea improves lipid and glucose metabolisms, prevents sharp increases in blood sugar level, and balances your metabolism rate.

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*11. Green Tea and Alzheimer's*

Green tea helps boost your memory.

And although there's no cure for Alzheimer's, it helps slow the process of reduced acetylcholine in the brain, which leads to Alzheimer's.

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*12. Green Tea and Parkinson's*

Antioxidants in green tea helps prevent against cell damage in the brain,

which could cause Parkinson's. People drinking green tea also are less likely to progress with Parkinson's.

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*13. Green Tea and Liver Disease*

Green tea helps prevent transplant failure in people with liver failure.

Researches showed that green tea destroys harmful free radicals in fatty livers.

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*14. Green Tea and High Blood Pressure*

Green tea helps prevent high blood pressure.

Drinking green tea helps keep your blood pressure down by repressing angiotensin, which leads to high blood pressure.

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*15. Green Tea and Food Poisoning*

Catechin found in green tea can kill bacteria which causes food poisoning and kills the toxins produced by those bacteria.

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*16. Green Tea and Blood Sugar*

Blood sugar tends to increase with age, but polyphenols and polysaccharides in green tea help lower your blood sugar level.

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*17. Green Tea and Immunity*

Polyphenols and flavenoids found in green tea help boost your immune system, making your health stronger in fighting against infections.

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*18. Green Tea and Cold and Flu*

Green tea prevents you from getting a cold or flu.

Vitamin C in green tea helps you treat the flu and the common cold.

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*19. Green Tea and Asthma*

Theophylline in green tea relaxes the muscles which support the bronchial tubes, reducing the severity of asthma.

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*20. Green Tea and Ear Infection*

Green tea helps with ear infection problem.

For natural ear cleaning, soak a cotton ball in green tea and clean the infected ear.
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*21. Green Tea and Herpes*

Green tea increases the effectiveness of topical interferon treatment of herpes.

First green tea compress is applied, and then let the skin dry before the interferon treatment.

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*22. Green Tea and Tooth Decay*

Green tea destroys bacteria and viruses that cause many dental diseases.

It also slows the growth of bacteria which leads to bad breath.
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*23. Green Tea and Stress*

L-theanine, which is a kind of amino acids in green tea, can help relieve stress and anxiety.
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*24. Green Tea and Allergies*

EGCG found in green tea relieves allergies.

So, if you have allergies, you should really consider drinking green tea.

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*25. Green Tea and HIV*

Scientists in Japan have found that EGCG (Epigallocatechin Gallate) in green tea can stop HIV from binding to healthy immune cells.

What this means is that green tea can help stop the HIV virus from spreading

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